Transition to high school...

 

Age 11 yrs, 4 months, oldest son is getting ready for high school!  Frontal lobe brain injury, dyspraxia, mild learning difficulties and a bunch of sensory issues accompany him wherever he goes! 

 

So checklist...

 

M&S uniform (with wonderful adaptations - hidden velcro behind shirt buttons and pull on trousers!  Although we wonder if people will laugh at the adaptations as they may have laughed at his inability to do the buttons and zips as he is bound to show the world his "special" clothes!) tick on the checklist

Clip on tie, tick

Slip on stylish shoes, tick

Know some other kids in first year, tick

 

World of sensory issues exploding, tick

 

So, he... 

Must wear one sock

Must eat frequently, soft, bland, easy foods

Must sleep in mum's bed

Must hide from our emotions watching Minecraft in YouTube

 

So, to deal with this first, quite  adult, transition, and as it's the end of an active summer holiday, we have come to some agreements.

 

  •  Food must be prepared by himself (we don't generally keep processed food in the house now cos he has no off button for this kind of food) and tidied away.
  •  OK to sleep in mum's bed, let's face it, he won't want to do that forever.  Adding lots of heavy bedding means a good night's sleep for all of us!
  •  YouTube is allowed after useful, responsible jobs are done, like grass cutting, for an agreed time, stopped by a noisy timer.  This "coincidentally" happens about an hour before dinner, so there is an obvious new thing to do at the end of the time, and I get to make dinner in peace!
  • And as for the one sock? Well, I bought 20 pairs the same on offer in sports shop for £4.00 all in, so all boys can wear them and no one cares about hidden or lost socks anymore.  (And pairing them after laundry can be done by us all, yay!)

 

Fidget spinners are the go-to choice, red, silver, light up, heavy or light, useful to distract if anxious, and to use for challenges, eg give your brothers a complement before it stops spinning, count in 2s or 5s etc before it stops.

 

Zip bracelets are great if he's a bit jittery, and are super for licking too!  Don't think they would survive much chewing, but we are not at chewy behaviour just now.

 

So the countdown is on... First day approaches.   Let's see what the new term brings. (And how many very expensive uniforms will be lost eek!)