things she wanted to do but wouldn’t allow herself because of the demand
I had made on her. I needed to manage her behaviour better and found
that it helped to give her choices, so she feels like she is in control all the
time. This has helped with her anxiety and behaviour over the years.
I started looking into how to help
I started looking at medication at 5, it is not a decision I made lightly. But I
knew she needed help. This has calmed her down, she still has meltdowns
but her outbursts are not as violent. I have to say, this has been a
lifesaver for all of us.
We concentrate on managing her impulse for control
We do this by giving her lots of choices. ASD and PDA can conflict, the
autistic side of her likes repetition and routine but the PDA side thinks this
is demands on herself, so she battles with herself constantly!
When she was about 3 I started to struggle, going through the stages of
diagnosis is daunting and I felt lonely. No one can prepare you for how
much you have to fight to get help for your child and it takes too long.